Do All Us Travelers Suck At This Or Is It Just My Family?
I made a joke with some others on our Miles to Memories team when I was thinking of booking a trip. And a little bit to my surprise pretty much everyone else could relate to it. I figured it was just me but maybe many of us travelers are terrible at this too?
The comment I made was that I would talk to my wife about a trip I was thinking about taking in the future. I will give her all of the details and we will agree that it works and there should be no issues. Then she will forget about it when it is time for me to actually leave. She will even say you never talked to me about this, even though I for sure did! I have even had her look at me as I was packing my backpack for my flight the next day and say what are you doing? She had completely forgot I was flying the very next day!
Why Does This Happen?
I had figured it was just my wife’s baby brain (she blames her deteriorating memory on having our children 😂). I have to admit my memory isn’t quite what it used to be after kids either…they kind of suck out many of our brain cells. Or maybe it is just us getting older and busier? But I figured it was somewhat unique to us.
That wasn’t the case at all. Pretty much everyone on our MtM team and “extended MtM family” (hi Bethany and Joe) chimed in that they have the same problem.
My wife will usually say, well you take so many damn trips how I am supposed to remember them all?! I do think our chaotic travel lives make it hard on our partners if you travel solo or for work often like many of us do.
How Can We Fix This?
I may have mentioned a time or two, do you need me to start having you sign contracts for these trips so you have proof we discussed them 🤣? We have tried to do the Google Calendar sync thing but it usually falls to the wayside after jotting them all down at one time. The pop up trips or last minute work related things get missed in between our planning sessions.
I do try to remind her as it is approaching to, like yeah in 3 weeks I will be here etc. But even then sometimes a few days out it is already forgotten. I swear I get a message once a week from her that says are you going to be home this weekend? She isn’t quite sure when that trip to New Orleans meetup is again.
So the digital calendar thing doesn’t work so well. I know Bethany said she bought a paper calendar that they write the trips on so they can easily check it. That could be a great addition for sure but what about when your spouse is at work or trying to plan something when they are not home?
I don’t want to simply merge our online calendars since mine is already jammed up with travel and work reminders, adding hers in would only clutter it even more. Maybe we should start new accounts or download a new app that is only for travel that we can easily access?
I Need Your Help
Maybe I should say, WE need your help. Let’s group think this thing because to be honest I am somewhat at a loss. I think I will add the paper “old school” calendar into the mix but is there something better I could be doing? Let me know what has worked for you and what hasn’t in the comments. Hopefully there is some amazing gadget or app that I have completely overlooked. Otherwise I will have to resort to my wife signing travel contracts in blood! And that just sounds really messy 😉😁.